Bread-winners

I really like the discussions we have been having in class about who should be the earner in the family. I also enjoyed the comment about how it can be smart for couples to talk about every purchase they make, and counsel to find the best decision. I think the forgiveness is also important, because nobody is perfect with money. For example, a few months ago my husband paid rent, like he always does. However, a few days later we got an email saying that our rent check had bounced. Turns out he used an old checkbook from an account he had closed when we got a joint account. I could have been ticked off because of the late fee we had to pay, but I realized that he is only here to help our family, and it was a mistake that he probably was beating himself up for. So instead we laughed it off, paid the fee, and moved on with our lives. I think that however important money is for helping us provide food, shelter, and necessities of life, it still isn't more important than the relationships we have in the family.

Being a mom

Ever since I started my first semester of college, 4 years ago, I was clueless as to what career I wanted. I wasn't married, so school seemed like the next step for me. I gradually made my way to the art program here at school, got married, and FINALLY settled on a useful degree. I am planning on graduating with a degree in art education next fall. I have realized that my hesitancy towards choosing a career is due to my lack of desire to have a career. I have been so grateful for fridays discussion about being stay at home moms, because it gives me courage to stand up and say that that is what I believe is right. Before we were married I asked my husband how he felt about my future career, and if he would do his best to support our family if I chose to be a full time mom. He strongly agreed, which I was so thankful for, and that has been the plan ever since. I still am going to finish school, because even if I never become a full time teacher, education is still important and can be used anywhere. Plus, it is very smart to have a plan B, in case circumstances disable my husband from being able to work. All in all though I believe strongly that women need to be in the home with their children, and few exceptions should be made to that idea. However alluring extra income may seem, nothing makes up for a nurturing mother in the home.

Don't sweat the small stuff

This weeks topic has been a great reminder on how to approach hard times. One of the coping methods I have tried to employ in my everyday crisis (crises) (creiseis) is taking responsibility. I remember what I was younger and working my first job as a server, when things went wrong I would always blame someone or something else. If I forgot to deliver drinks to my tables it was because another server had asked me for help and I forgot all about my tables. If I was late getting my cleaning jobs done it was because someone else had made a big mess that took me longer to clean up. I was always the victim, and frankly I didn't do very well at that job. However, from that experience I learned the value of responsibility. Once I got to college I was tempted to use the old standby excuses like "I didn't have enough time" or "I totally forgot", as a way to justify why I hadn't gotten homework done. True, as students we sometimes are pressed for time, but I don't think anybody can't even manage to find the time to read a ten minute long paper. Its all how we percieve things. Once I understood that I was playing the victim and therefore making myself unable to progress at all, I chose to take accountability for everything that happened to me. By doing that I have been able to be more involved in my life and decisions, fully knowing what the consequences will be. I know that if we strive to use good coping skills in our every day lives, as well as times of crisis, we will be able to make it through more safely as families.

"The Talk"

Hi! Today after class, and last night while doing the reading, I kept having strong impressions that there is no set time when a parent should have "The Talk" with their kids. I believe that if a parent is in tune with the spirit, and has opened necessary communication lines with their kids, that they will be notified what and when they need to discuss certain things with their kids. Some children may need a whole lot of talking to, others not. Talking to kids about sex is all about being in the 'right place at the right time. I don't think its crazy to rely on the spirit to know when.

On another note, I really liked the things we learned concerning fidelity this week. My favorite thing I read was the quote that said, "The grass is greener....on the side of the fence you water."
I'll probably make a sign that says that and hang it in my house.