Rules

This week we talked about "unspoken rules" within our families. I was amused when I compiled my list of rules from my childhood, as well as rules that have developed in my new family. My favorite rule growing up (favorite to remember anyways, at the time it was the worst) concerned control of the T.V. Basically the rule was that if you left the room while watching T.V. you would have to forfeit the remote to whoever entered the room before you got back. Usually this meant beat-downs between my younger brother and I. He liked Dragon Ball Z, I liked....well anything but that. I remember times when he would hide just outside of the room, waiting for me to leave for a drink or something, and then come zipping in right as I left. Ohhhh it made me so mad.

A rule we have between my husband and I deals with who has to drive the car when we are together. If we are going on a long drive, he usually drives there and I have to drive home. It's funny that we never really talked about making that an official rule, but almost always that is what is assumed. The same goes with shorted trips, if he drives to Horkleys I get to drive home. Somehow we always know whos turn it is.

I think that having unspoken rules is important because it gives structure to different subsystems, but it can also be bad because they might be understood differently by those involved. We must make sure our unspoken rules dont cause problems to anyone, in order to help families run more smoothly.

HOWDY!

Hey all, its Valory. This is the beginning post of my class blog. From it I hope to share the things I learn and also learn more about myself. For an intro, I am a 22 year old girl from Rexburg who loves my husband, art, and laughing. I've been married for almost 5 months to Ryker, a friend from high school and my best bud ever. I am starting my 5th year at BYUI and recently (very recently) switched my major to Art Ed (effects of the change will be discussed further into this post). Ryker is studying CIT and loves that. And that is us!


Ok, so on to the nitty gritty. This past week has been ridiculously stressful for me. Last weekend we headed to Preston, ID, for a family reunion, and on the way home we got talking about life and the future and blah blah blah, haha and all of a sudden I realized that once I graduated with my degree in integrated studio art I could see no realistic career choices. I remembered old dreams of wanting to be a teacher and suddenly it became clear that I needed to take the steps to do that. I felt good, Ryker felt good, and it was settled. The next morning I went to my advising office and got all the stuff I needed to petition for a major change (since I am currently at 95 credits) Im making this sound easier than it was. I was a ball of stress! Fortunately, thanks to the reading this week I was able to take advantage of the support my husband gives me. As found on page 17 of our book, I read that "a satisfying marriage provides you with a built in support system to help you deal with the varied challenges and struggles of your life." I loved being about to talk with Ryker and having him understand. I hope I can always remember to turn to him when things are tough, and work through trials together.
Alright! Thanks for reading! Talk to you soon!